The Best Way to End the Relationship

by apol on October 23, 2009

in breaking up a relationship

Ending a relationship is barely at the tip of everyone’s calendar, the truth is that when a relationship has gone bad, there should be someone who will make the move to finish it.  But then there still a lot of relationship out there that continues to go on because there is no one that has the guts to end it.

Most of the times, break up happens with a lot of drama like throwing the clothes out of the window. Other times, it is done just by talking in a fancy restaurant with a lot of tears in their eyes.

So how do you end a relationship that neither party gets hurt?

You need to clear your mind the real reason why you want to end the relationship.  The first reason that pops up into your mind may not be the real reason.  After that, the next step in ending a relationship is by showing honesty.  It means that when you discuss your real intention with your partner, you are true to yourself and to them.

Time is the key, it must be convenient to both parties for the break up to happen. In general, it is better to do it in person rather than over the phone, but if it is a long distance relationship, you must do it as soon as possible rather than wait for a time you can get together.

Be compassionate when ending the relationship.  If you desire to be friends after the break up, you need to close the romantic ties with love and compassion.

Do not put your place on the defensive. Tell your partner all the things you have learned and the memories that you will not ever forget when you are still together. Always be there during the break up.   At this time, your partner is very emotional and you should always at the side to respond to their needs.

Never take anything personally when breaking up.  Words may come out from your partner that they don’t really mean. So let those words fly in the thin air.

There are times that your partner will meet you to conclude the relationships or they just need more space. So it is important to give them what they want to get through the transition time.

It is also important on the other hand not letting them make you any feelings of guilt. Start your life with a new chapter excluding the romance you had with your ex and just move on. It must be very hard for you to do this but it is the right thing to do.

There are a lot of things you must know and consider in ending a relationship and if you got questions in your mind about love, read this book by Michael Webb. It is entitled 1,000 Questions for Couples. It will help a lot to answer your questions about love and life and it is completely risk free. CLICK HERE for more information. Thank you.

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